In my article, “Why Dating is a Waste of Time (for single people),” I made the case for slowing down the race from swipe right to the coffee shop to bed. Dating, after all, is more about impression management — touting our desirability — than about a good-faith search for…

For those of us who worry and experience subsequent anxiety, we tend to assign adverse events and outcomes more importance than they deserve. A rejection, a failure, or setback causes short term pain. But then we dwell on it. We play out worst-case scenarios and fret over the downstream effects. …